We all have those moment where we wish we could take back something we’ve said or done. For some of us, these things seem to happen a lot more often than others. Creating and implementing filters for people with ADD and ADHD is essential.
So how does one create and implement a filter? Well it begins with identifying the issue or problem that one wants to repair/discontinue. Perhaps we say things that shouldn’t be said? It gets to a point where people are uncomfortable around us. Or even worse, we are uncomfortable with ourselves.
The best place to start is at the beginning. Ask yourself three questions…
- What is our goal?
- What behavior/action are we attempting to improve?
- Is there something we want to do differently?
Let’s say that you have a tendency to say things that will offend others. While this isn’t your intention it happens too often in social situations. The goal becomes to improve social communication. You’re attempting to improve how your communicate (too much. too little, etc.). Depending on the issue, you want to change that specific action that concerns you or the situation.
Now, this sounds great and easy, but if it were so easy none of us would have those moments. And by putting a filter in place isn’t suggesting we won’t have those moments in the future, but understanding the behavior is essential. I strongly recommend you take a personal (and honest) inventory and identify the areas you feel good about and those areas in which you struggle. Apply those things you want to improve through my little test and track the results. What you might find will surprise you.
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