1. Maree

    Thanks for another useful snippet. It’s a battle to get people to realize this. Why do we put so much emphasis on grades! I’m with you. It’s about ” having a go” doing YOUR best!

  2. Gwen Haggis

    I love your plate of food analogy. I can relate to this feeling of overwhelm and not knowing how exactly to approach it some days. What a great way to visually describe this feeling to someone.

    I’m not sure about the comment that all of us with ADHD are manipulative. Sometimes it’s s lack of self awareness, executive functioning skills and coping skills that cause the avoidance. We also have to look at how the teachers are dealing with some of the ADHD behavior at school. It’s not always the ADHD child that is the issue.

    Write more! This was very helpful.

  3. Denise 1

    One more question. Your article suggests not putting as much of a focus on grades, but on performance. I agree. I want my kids to have a love of learning. It’s hard to get excited about learning when things can be so hard and challenging.

    What do you suggest for a kid whose twice exceptional? In other words, if the kid doesn’t struggle academically because they’re gifted, but struggles with performance or executive function deficit and keeps getting negative feedback based on performance and not grades, what do you do then? Additionally, how do you keep a gifted child with ADHD motivated when all he or she sees and feels is their performance deficit?

    We’re there any particular tools or strategies you found helpful when you were in middle school? This seems to be the time when most kids with ADHD really start to struggle with organization and executive function. The demands and amount of work goes up and without appropriate strategies and supports, the kid becomes frustrated and his or her attitude goes down.


    • It goes back to the whole notion of grades not being the full indicator of academic success. Just because a student is getting good grades doesn’t mean he or she is performing well; or a student getting poor grades isn’t working to his or her ability levels. So let’s take grades completely out of this conversation.

      As far as motivation goes, it is not something you can coach, teach or make someone do. But you can certainly explain to this type of learner that he or she has a gift, and the more he or she doesn’t embrace it, the more it becomes underutilized. Now most kids with ADHD are three-to-four years less mature than his or her peers, so some of these performance concerns can be equated back to that issue. But when you keep being told “you’re not working up to your potential”, you eventually begin to believe it. That is why I never use that term with any of my clients. Everyone has potential, but very few of us have the ability. I’d love to play Major League Baseball. Potentially, I could do that. Ability wise, not a chance. Creating realistic expectations is the real key to helping a student better understand his or her abilities.

      Hope that helps!

      • Hi,This is very interesting. I am a pesorn sorrounded by family of taking all the food supplements, nutrients, natural nutrients, etc. I was in search of all the possible meds that can at least probably improve once mood and attitude. Mainly because of my sisters monthly problem of pms. She also has a very high temper, looking for at least something that could alleviate it, on top of that she has a problem with her posture.She purchased an ab mat and did situps to help out with her posture.Yoga was also very helpful, really helps long term effect.Some of my friends needed to hear it from the expert and they really got great advise.Anyway, love the article great eye opener for things you don’t really think about.Regards

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